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How To Hold Up When You're Afraid Things Will Fall Apart

Believe it or not, I’m actually exhausted some days living this world and cannot stand the greedy architects of these awful systems we live in. They've created an awful culture of “survival of the fittest" and “ever person for themselves.”

We've been beaten over the head with a corrupt and incorrect definition of “personal responsibility” that is totally disconnected from any real concept of loving, supportive community.

But it’s the world we live in so I do what I can so that it doesn’t chew us up and spit us out over here in my camp. If I’m honest, it’s a big factor in why I do the work I do and the way I do it.

Cause I’ll be damned if they wipe us out over here…no matter how hard they try.

F. That.

Today is one of those days.

I woke up to the news that the Supreme Court “leaked” an opinion that essentially says that Roe v. Wade is being overturned. That news is triggering and terrifying for a lot of us. I’m still not doing any of this “the sky is falling” mess today.

I cannot afford to do so. WE cannot afford to do so.

My life, the lives of those that matter most to me. the lives of those who are connected to me, and the future can’t afford for me to fall apart, either.

So I wanted to stop by and give a little encouragement and a reminder that before we go off the deep end…

The thing people fear hasn't actually happened yet.

What IS happening is that folks are rightfully concerned and afraid of what this decision means and how it could potentially affect women, reproductive rights and the future. They are going down the path of worst possible outcomes. That isn't helpful today and I would argue that a lot of times it isn't. I'm all for a good contingency plan, but not for accepting defeat.

So how am I coping? I'm doing what I'm asking you do to here:

Shed whatever tears you need to shed.

Ground yourself.There are a myriad of ways to do so that actually work if you stop telling yourself that it’s useless and don’t bother to try.

Resolve that these evil people will never win and things will ultimately be okay.

Get clear on the world you want to live in - one where we are all safe, prospering and FREE - then do your part to align with it and bring it to reality - in more than just word, but deed.

Don't join in the conversations around “isn’t it awful” or “yeah, but”.They aren't helping. Don't inbox me with them, either.

We already know it's awful. We don’t need to continue to trigger folks and send them spiraling hopelessness.

You will feel anger, sadness, shock and the first tendrils of anticipatory grief. That's part of the process.

People who are talking about what is happening in the world is not an invitation to offload your anxiety or despair onto others. It is invitation for you to gather and steady yourself.

Today is a day of gathering and steading yourself.

…because spiraling into despair and giving up cannot ever be an option.

Sending you love and steadiness for today and the days to come.

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